A career setback–which can negatively impact our self-confidence–can happen at any moment of our life. Imagine the impact of the experience of being demoted, overlooked for a promotion or feeling as if you are the last person on the team to receive recognition.A career setback–which can negatively impact our self-confidence–can happen at any moment of our life. Imagine the impact of the experience of being demoted, overlooked for a promotion or feeling as if you are the last person on the team to receive recognition.
Despite hard work, there are times when it seems impossible to get ahead; this can certainly have an impact on efforts to be more confident or motivated in your career.
Can you relate? You are not alone.
A Gallup Survey reveals, “85% of employees are not engaged or actively disengaged at work.”1
Yet, unhappiness in your career no longer needs to be your reality.
In this article, we hold the golden truth to help you learn how to gain confidence land the dream job that you deserve. Read on to find out how to change your life forever.
True Secrets to Career Happiness
1. Do Some Soul Searching
What is the point of soul searching? It is a process of self awareness.
Now is the best time to look deep within yourself to discover what will make you truly happy in your career. For example: there are many people that have pursued a career simply to make their parents happy. Society often tells us certain careers, like being a doctor, are most rewarding because they offer high earning potential.
True happiness can present itself in many ways. The key is to find the career that will make you happiest. Here are a few ideas to help you start soul searching:
- A road trip with colleagues
- A one-week vacation
- Beginning a career journal
Approaching a career without a plan can turn towards the opposite direction of what you originally intended.
Giving yourself an opportunity to clear your head of negative thoughts is a great way to get started.
Here are several helpful things to consider on your soul search:
Personality: Most of us do not realize that certain jobs are designed for people with certain personalities.
For example, an introvert can succeed as a human resources manager, writer or in information technology (IT) professional. An extrovert may be happy in a sales role, working directly with customers or working in public relations in front of the camera.
Happiness: You might need to switch careers in the pursuit of happiness. Think about the environment and job responsibilities that will match how you interact with people.
Performance: Its time to be honest with yourself. How well are you performing? Do you keep making the same mistakes? The only way to grow is to review mistakes and commit to stop repeating them in the future.
Progress: Pursuing a goal and letting it go because of a disappointment is common. Think about the personal groups you joined last year you stopped attending.
It is better to be honest with yourself that the ambition to continue pursuing a goal has discontinued and it is time to resume where you left off.
Soul searching can be a liberating experience.
Instead of searching for answers outside of yourself, search within yourself to help guide you in taking your first step towards your dream job.
2. Ask Your Manager for the Truth
There is a difference between the job we want and the reality of the job we can get.
Your manager is the right person to ask for real advice on whether you are fit for a new position. The advice from a family member or friend is tempting, but it can potentially prolong the time it may take for you to succeed.
A direct manager spends most of the day working with you and can offer specific examples of strengths and weaknesses.
Here is a list of questions to ask a manager for the truth:
- How can I improve as an employee?
- What career advice can you offer?
- What are my chances of promotion?
- Do I meet or exceed expectations?
- How do I rank on the team?
- What was my best piece of work?
The truth hurts, but it can set you free from setting low standards in a career. Document the conversation with a list of actions steps on what to do next.
In today’s workforce, most managers do not have time to sit one-on-one with employees to develop their skills unless it is impacting work performance.
Be proactive and request a quarterly meeting with the manager to track your progress.
Tracking progress can be a confidence booster. It will help keep you on track of your goals making you feel as if you have full control of your destiny.
3. Create Personal Branding Tools
Personal branding tools amplify your skills and talents. These could be:
- An up-to-date LinkedIn profile with a mix of weekly social engagement with your connections.
- An eye-catching resume template with a colorscheme that matches your personality.
- Business cards customized to your industry that you are proud to share at networking events.
- A reference letter about your skills from a professional with experience working directly with you. (Create an effective reference letter by giving the writer the job description you are targeting so they can highlight your most relevant skills).2
- A 30-60-90 plan that will engage a recruiter (what you can offer an organization in the first 90 days of employment).
You can use these personal branding tools to increase your chances of being hired for a new job.
A few of these tools can be used when connecting with people online that are interested in learning about you for an upcoming opportunity.
4. Jot Down Your Achievements
A list of achievements tucked away in your wallet or purse can make you feel better about where you are in life.
When I experience a disappointment, I read my list to boost my self-worth. Other people will not always be available (or willing) to remind you of your greatness. So do it yourself!
A list of achievements can include the following:
- Awards received
- Buying a new house
- Completing a salsa class
- Moving for a new job
It is a confidence-building ritual that can be used whether you are at the pinnacle of a career or are just starting your journey.
5. Help Out New Employees
One of the best ways to become a confident person is to create positive change in the lives of other people.
If you participate in a mentorship program or help guide the career of a new employee, once that person succeeds it will make you feel better about yourself. They will think highly of you because of the influence you have had on their journey.
Here are a few ways to help newbies on the job:
• Introduce new hires to experienced employees
• Invite new employees out for lunch to teach them about the company
• Offer to help a new hire when you notice they are struggling
• Sit near a new hire to be a direct contact for help
How does this improve confidence? If your advice can help new employees increase work productivity, your manager will recognize the hard work.
This could turn into a positive conversation with your manager that leads to a promotion or a raise.
6. Stand Out From the Competition
The conventional way of applying for a job online will not set you apart from hundreds of people in your field that want the same job.
Have you heard of the hidden job market? According to Fortune, “job market in which the commonly quoted statistic tells us 70-80% jobs are not even published.”
The secret to getting ahead is tapping into your talent to find creative ways to stand out.
Listed below are a few tips to help you succeed:
- Start blogging if you are a subject matter expert.
- Start a group on LinkedIn to connect with people in your field.
- Invite a few colleagues to start a committee outside of work and become the president of the group.
- Write an e-book on an ongoing topic in your industry offering a compelling solution to a problem. Remember to share it with colleagues.
At times you need to do things other people are not willing to do.
Imagine implementing a new idea at work that helps the company achieve a high level of success. You will feel good about this success no matter where you are in your career.
The most successful people in history experienced challenges in their career. Read the biography of a person that you admire who has had major career success. It just may change your thoughts about your own situation.
Not only can it teach you about their mindset and decisions they made, it will also give you the confidence to continue on the path to pursue your dream job.
8. Seek Out a Career Coach
Let’s face it. We can’t achieve a high level of success without guidance.
Most of us expect our family and friends to have all the answers. Yet, they are not career coaches and can only provide the advice they would do if they were in your shoes which is limited.
A career coach will have an in-depth conversation about the full scope of your career aspirations. Most are well connected to key decision makers at organizations and can provide advice that a friend simply can’t offer.
Benefits to working with a career coach are:
- They work with people like you every day
- They offer unfiltered, honest feedback on your progress
- Provides direction when you are confused
- Holds you accountable for your goals
- You’ll get an unbiased opinion from a qualified professional
You don’t have to go on your career journey alone. Interview several career coaches to ensure you find a great fit to guide you.
9. Trust the Journey
We live in a society that expects results overnight.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “life is a journey, not a destination.” It is about enjoying the process whether you succeed or fail.
Once we accept that our journey can be met with unexpected results, experiencing a setback becomes part of the process.
Here are a few ways to successfully trust the journey:
- Don’t have high expectations
- Remember there is room for improvement
- Pursue one goal at a time to avoid disappointment
- Re-write your list of goals when you experience failure
Think of life as a stock market chart: wins and losses are inevitable. By trusting your decisions, when you are faced with failure you’ll rest assured that it is a normal part of life to overcome.
Capture Your Career Confidence
The key to succeeding in life is stepping outside your comfort zone.
It can be terrifying to reach out to a manager for honest feedback or soul search to find answers. A daily success ritual of reading a list of your achievements and trusting that journey is a step closer to fulfilling your dreams.
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